Empower Your Life!
6 Ways You Can Stand In Your Power
The act of healing is not just one time; it is many; it is daily; and when we are connected to this desire of wanting to heal, that is when we are most tapped into the power to transform our lives.
Desire is golden…
It fuels your commitment fire, and, let me make this clear, you will need the commitment on a daily basis. Listen, nothing is ever “fully healed”, I mean what does that mean anyway? For me it means there is a chance, a choice, and an opportunity to transform everything in my life that I decide I want to transform.
Can we truly find healing?
The answer is yes. We can create it within our minds, our hearts and our ever-expanding souls. Too corny? Ok, sorry, I will say it this way instead – we can create healing through our conscious awareness of the desire to heal. We are the only ones who control our healing process as well as our healing strength.
Take a moment right now and think about what you want to heal in your life, get deep into the desire of it. Where is it coming from? How much do you want it?
What does healing mean to you? What does your desire to heal feel like? (heads up – change your tune if you are answering with a negative vibe. Come on, this is your desire we are talking about)
Take your desire to heal right now and use these 6 enlightening perspectives to help you gain momentum!
1. Be more responsible for your healing
Get acquainted with the deeply moving desire to heal your life, whatever that may be to you. If you desire to heal a relationship and its foundations, first ask yourself if it is balanced, willing and supportive of healing. We are most often trying to make something into what it is not and then at the end of the day we ask why it is not healed. Relationships and people will always show their true colours and that can be hard to accept when all we want is for it to be how we see it. Be responsible for what healing entails, understand it has roots in the most uncomfortable truth within you.
2. Be more real
Say what? How can you get more real than you are? Easy, stop pretending there is no problem/issue going on or using those excuses to procrastinate what needs to get done. Be more real in your thoughts and feelings, get downright authentic with yourself.
Honor that desire to heal, let it rise up. If you need to forgive someone, let that sit in your heart for a moment and get real with how incredibly powerful it is to forgive. If you need to close a door to the past, let that sink into your heart space as you accept that things need to change,
Be more authentic with your feelings so that you can show love to your past, your present and your future.
3 Judge less, love more
Less judgement and more understanding. Do not judge others and deflect your healing into their hands. Do not judge yourself and create a monster inside of you. Perspective is a huge game changer. You can get stuck with your negative, limiting and unworthy self if you are not careful.
I can’t tell you enough how important it is to check in on your perspectives. Ask yourself if they are limiting you in any way. Connect the dots to see if the way you think or feel about something or someone is rooted in a pattern or habit that doesn’t want you to rise up. It can be difficult (not impossible) to retrain ourselves especially our minds but, if you can see your limits you can also change your perspective to release them.
Think of something you are judging in your life right now and remove this need to judge by replacing it with understanding and compassion. It takes practice but once you see that judgement is a reaction to feeling unworthy, fearful and victimized, you will be able to release your judgements and show up for your experiences, and even your healing goals.
4. Become more of who you want to be
I love this one.
Every day I ask myself who I want to be. I stay away from the question – who am I -as much as I possibly can. Because I respect my journey of growth and expansion. Because I know I would rather discover, uncover and unearth myself right here and now.
TRUTH: No one knows who they will eventually end up as in the end, but we do know who we want to be right now.
In the past I found myself going crazy trying to “find” who I was. I mean, how do you find someone you don’t know yet?
I learned something empowering on my journey that has helped me with this “becoming era” in my life and it was that I only needed to create the vision of myself I knew I wanted to be and continue discovering this each day.
Along the way I would start finding pieces of me I never knew I had. The becoming of me is a lifelong journey and once I embraced this I was able to breathe and take the pressure off of thinking I had to be anyone I could think of to fill up that “trying to find myself” space.
Think about who you want to be right now. Leave out that pessimistic part of you for a moment and just be free in your visions of who you are.
What do you look like? What do you feel like? What is in your life? What is not? – Do you want more happiness? Are you overcoming that fear? Are you learning something new?
Let this version of you stand in the light right now – don’t push it away with thoughts such as “oh I can never get to where I want to be” or “I don’t have what I need”. Remember that desire we talked about? Insert that desire here right now because you deserve to be the person you want to be.
You are that person.
5. You can let it go..
Oh yeah! yes, yes, yes!
Yes you can, this is a fact. You can let that it go! You can give yourself permission to transform! Who says you must hold onto it? Who told you that it defines you or your future? What stone of concrete was your life written on? Think about that for a moment…
Only you have the power to let it go. To set it free. To renew, with love.
Sh*t happens, absolutely. I am no denying that there are many moments we experience hurt, pain, and grief in our lives. I will never tell you that sadness and defeat won’t rise from time to time and I certainly am not going to tell you the world is full of unicorns and rainbows and that everything is peachy keen.
What I will tell you though is that everything can be transformed, figured out and healed. There is no doubt that what you have held onto for so long can become something totally different for your life but it is up to you what you allow it to be with you.
Think about what you are holding onto and ask yourself these questions…
What are the reasons I hold on?
How can I use love to turn this around?
How much do I want to let this shit go?
Then tell yourself, I give myself permission to let go. I give myself the closure I need.
No it is not easy-peasy, you have wounds and scars from battles you have endured, but listen, you can make a scar into something so beautiful that the light has no choice but to shine through it. You can feel the pain through a beautiful light and this is where the healing becomes miraculous.
I took my wounds and I closed them up with love, respect, understanding and I let the scars teach me more about myself than anything else.
You can let it go and choose again, choose love, choose to heal.
6. There is always time for a new chapter
Once you have taken this desire and got up close and personal with it there will be no going back. This desire, once empowered, takes over and pushes you to keep going. This in turn creates new chapters in life, new foundations, new beginnings and of course a new you! Amazing stuff begins to happen! Your inner voice gets louder. You become more focused on health and wellness. The truth becomes a driving force and not this uncomfortable shit show you are trying to avoid.
This new you is a warrior, ready to do what needs to be done.
You are ready to love yourself more and find ways to thrive and not just cope. You are willing to learn and grow. Most importantly, this new you is ready to step into the quality of life and the person you want to be.
But listen, don’t forget those first 5 steps we just went through because you will need them. Remember, healing is daily and is always happening. You will encounter some habits that want to repeat, or you will happen upon a situation that wants you to resort back to the old you – you won’t do it, why? Because my dear friends you are going to remind yourself of that true desire to heal. You are going to switch to the new you and implement your healing tools.
Keep Shining xo