Do you want more harmony in your life?
I began my journey of decluttering about 8 years ago now! I used to feel overwhelmed and caged in my own life, my daily routines and experiences were never fulfilling me, I began to be the product of life. I wanted to gain control back and feel supported in myself and life; I needed to do some decluttering on all levels of emotional, mental, physical and spiritual.
The key: I had to change me; the way I thought, felt and imprinted on my life, if it wasn’t a good imprint, then I knew I had to reevaluate my habits and patterns and my behavior.
These are the things I learned along the way that have helped me keep the balance and peace in my daily self and life
1. LIVE FOR TODAY!
Inspiration is where its at! and today you can make some choices. Today has so much going for you, there is no place you need to be. You can deal with problems more efficiently when you focus on what’s in your power. You bring more positive energy to your life when you make today count for something. This is also the day you can open your eyes to new and exciting experiences. Today is going to inspire you if you allow the little things to fill you with a deep sense of gratitude; look at those beautiful things today, they are magnificent just like you. When you stay present in yourself today you create a grounding foundation that will help you to create your reality and move yourself towards the future. You will have clarity on some choices you need to make now as well as on the decisions that will need to wait until more information comes to light. Tap into the flow of today and let your senses guide you. Intuition speaks louder when you stay present and open to possibilities, choices, change and flow.
2. LET IT BE FREE
What has holding onto anger or resentment ever done for you? In fact, what has any negative feeling you have held onto, ever done for you? I found this reflection hard at first, I kept getting stuck on the emotion and experience instead of the desire I had to just move on! Once I fully embraced that I wanted to move on and let go I was able to help heal and transform. We have the ability to carry our experiences with us in the right way, with love, forgiveness, compassion and understanding. The best thing you can do is learn lessons and grow. Learn to forgive for the simple fact that you can. You deserve to set it free. Declutter your emotions from the web of chaos and give yourself some peace. You may never get an apology, or closure, or whatever else you are seeking, but you can HEAL your own life.
3. CONSIDER THE BIGGER PICTURE
There is always a bigger picture, and you may not be able to see it all, but never forget that its there. Don’t limit potential, the bigger picture isn’t about the future, it is about seeing how everything is connected and you are one with a divine universe. Always raise your perception, have faith and trust that whatever needs to happen, will happen, especially for your experience and highest good. The bigger picture is larger than your eyes can see, it is what your soul is a part of.
Trust that the Universe has your back and remind yourself of all the blessings in disguise, the synchronistic moments and the way you have been guided in certain situations. The more you look at these experiences in you life that have seemingly connected to bring you to where you are the better you ill see the bigger picture and feel the presence of the Universe. This was the most important piece of the puzzle on my path, to reconnect with a faith and Universe as I opened up my mind and heart.
4. CHOOSE YOUR OWN KIND OF HAPPINESS
Happiness comes from within, and you create it, you can not place a contingency upon it: getting to another place in time is not going to make you happier. Having more money is not going to make you happier. Having a better job is not going to make you happier. You get the picture. None of those things you think will make you happier will, and this is because they are not made up of you, they are just the product of your creations. Your happiness is based upon your best laid emotions, your engagement in life, and your meaning or impact you have upon it. True happiness and its satisfaction does not come from pleasure of having something or someone, it comes from having a meaningful life to which you wish to engage in. You must find you before you find happiness, if you can remember that you are the answer to your prayers, then you will always hold the key to happiness.
Get to know what makes you happy. Who do you love to be around? What do you do for fun? to relax? to feel engaged in life? What simple thing makes you feel balanced and at peace?
We are taught to be in survival mode in this system we live there is no doubt about that. which is why it is even more important to find balance between what we have to do to support our lives and what we do to support, love and thrive in ourselves. I know I loved choosing my own kind of happiness! I made sure I gave myself something each day that made me happy and that I loved to do. We have to create balance and harmony within our hearts and minds so that we can choose our own happiness.
5. DON’T BE IN COMPETITION
You already are a magnificent! you are unique and come with your own set of skills, talents and purpose. You are not going to be like the next person, nor should you try to be. We get wrapped up in image, we see our value in comparison to what the outer world says is the life to live. Celebrity status, millionaire money, model body; most of us here in the world are just trying to survive and thrive, and on top of this, we have been taught that who we know, what we look like and how much we have is the classification we need to put ourselves in. We have been shown that the outer world is who we should live up to and compete against. STOP, look at yourself, the only competition you truly must get over is the ego inside you that feels insignificant and trapped in a society driven world.
Remove yourself from the competition and focus on one day at a time, you don’t have to be a model with perfect skin and body (most of its photo-shopped anyway) all you must do is choose a healthy lifestyle. If you must be in competition, the compete for your own attention and love, self love in fact, nothing more. You build success when you stop looking at all you are lacking; stop seeing life as competition, you are beautiful, you are enough, now let yourself shine.
6. SIMPLIFY EVERYTHING YOU CAN!
Ask yourself, do you need this? Is it adding healthy value you your life? Do you love it in your life? – on a material level you can declutter your life into three categories; keep, donate, and throw away. Put things into your life that create Feng shui energy, get rid of junk and things that are taking up space. The space around you matters, and what you fill it with is imperative to your life, start looking around right now and do a little “spring cleaning”.
Simplify your day – declutter and set priorities every day. Have a list of the things you want to get done and try to stay in that lane. Reduce commitments that are non-essential, say no to what you don’t need to do and don’t take on other people’s priorities. Each person is responsible for their piece of the puzzle, you can become resentful when you are always doing someone else’s work. Be discerning with your time and energy, choose your balance.
Simplify your relationships- whoever it may be, always have an open line of communication. Talk to them the minute you need to. Don’t bottle up those thoughts and feelings, always be truthful even when it is discomforting it is needed to open the doors. Focus on the solution, and the benefits of what everyone needs, if your dealing with someone who doesn’t put anyone’s feelings into their consideration, then perhaps that something you need to accept and move on from. Lead by example, show how you can declutter your feelings and enter the space with an open heart and mind, and when someone goes low, you go in the direction of calm, peace, and understanding, don’t go low with them. When there is resistance and a wall up, the only thing you can do is be the person you wish to be. Sometimes simplifying relationships means letting them go and walking away, you will know what is toxic, it feeds of negativity.
in my life I have my close tribe, and I also have those who I know to keep at arms length. I allow everyone to be who they are because that lets me see where they fit in my life, I do not try to change them or force them to be different, that’s their choice, I only remember what I want to surround myself with and what I deserve. I create the balanced relationship’s in my life by being attuned with my highest good.
Into nature, into meditation, into yoga or well being techniques. Find a space to give yourself space! Seek your inner peace, take a proactive approach to your peaceful intention you wish to surround your day. Practice mindfulness and awareness, wake up each day not jumping out of bed, but earlier so that you can have some time to begin your day. Deep breathe throughout your entire day, marvel at the beauty around you and spend some time on peace. If you balance your health and wellbeing, you will gain control of your mind, and see profound results.
You can hold the mantra “keep it simple and keep it light” in all your daily life’s demands on you from your house to your job to your relationships. Don’t put into your life what you know isn’t adding healthy value.
Keep Shining xo